My Testimony Continued…….
The school saw that these guys were hanging around for a long time….so a warrant was issued for their arrest. My parents had dropped the order of protection and case against my uncle, in fear of my safety, though I begged them not to do so, and reassured them that I am ok…with God’s verses up above. The guys were eventually caught at the border about to cross over to the next state. I came to later find out that the husband of sister #2, whose son was staying at our house, which was told by my cousin, himself, to my father; bailed out the 3 culprits (one being my uncle’s brother-in-law; and sister #3’s son-1/4 older cousins, was the one sent from the US, with the money needed to fund this whole stunt in abroad…YES, they paid people to come after me). So in essence, not only did any of the other siblings get involved in helping me and my family out…..but they were taking an active role in it; and supporting the cause of this one uncle.
After this incident, these 6 siblings decided to break away from having any relationship WITH US so that the truth can be rewritten to protect themselves, and to justify what happened. It is always easier to put the blame on 1 family, as opposed to the 6 standing together and condoning this to occur, I suppose. They had to rewrite history, in order to hide the truth, so that their lives, with their children can move on. Whenever asked to talk things through for the past 18 years, whenever we bumped into them within the community, to mend things, the saying “no need to talk about the past”…or to “forgive and forget” were said. Who is the father of deception and lies….Satan himself; allowing for pride to get in the way of mending with full disclosure of the wrong, to the wronged party. This is why till this day, I do not hesitate to say “I’m sorry” to someone, because I know how it feels to the extreme, to be wronged.
WHAT FATHER GOD REVEALED TO ME, IN THIS TESTIMONY….
I learned at this time that it was only God that protected me from any harm, during this time in my life. He put the right people and circumstances in front of me, to provide His Protection. Not only that, He was speaking to me through Scripture. He called me out to be His Own, and that I can rely on Him during one the most traumatizing moments in my life, where all earthly logic has failed, and no one around you understands. Till this day, many can not understand how this was acceptable to be done within a family. But from that moment on, I dedicated my life to God, and in a letter I found that I wrote to my parents at that time, I kept to my promise as to keeping Jesus Christ’s commandment of “turning the other cheek”; instead of even thinking of vengeance (picture of letter seen below). Instead, I put it all in God’s Hands, for His Will to be done of my life, and dedicated myself to God.
Fast forward to about 18 years later. This same uncle who did this to me (who is the youngest of the 7 siblings), my family has come to know was about to die of cancer. My mother being the oldest, wanted to see her youngest brother. Both my father and mother practically begged everyone in the family for them to be able to come see him, in his final hours; however, everyone in the family said that he and his wife said, “no”. Then as a final attempt, my parents visited their Pastor, and begged to go see them, fully disclosing to them of the past, but having forgiven for that of them. Mind you that all of the other relatives were around to advise…both he and his wife refused, eventhough the pastor went to their home personally to go and spiritually advise them to allow for my parents to go see him. I remember praying that same night about asking God, to give me the strength to completely forgive my uncle for what happened, seeing that these may be his finally days, and that I may never get the apology that I so longed for, for 18 years; and for him to allow for my Mom to go see him. Later, I found out that same night, after the pastor had left after refusing to allow for my parents to come see him, my uncle had taken a turn for the worse, and needed to be rushed to the hospital. And with that, my uncle and his wife took it as a sign that they should reconsider. So my parents were able to go see him, and within a couple of hours later of my parents seeing him….my uncle died.
Some things that God revealed to me about my uncle’s death:
- It was EXACTLY 18 years to the day, of when my uncle did what he did to me (I wrote the letter to my parents after they had left –2/19/1997); my uncle died (2/17/2015).
- His oldest son is the EXACT SAME AGE as I was (when my uncle did all of this to me) when my uncle died.
- The following verse came to me, during the time of when I prayed the night the Pastor came over to advise my uncle and his wife to allow for my parents to see him, and he refused…Isaiah 54:17
“no weapon forged against you will prevail,
and you will refute every tongue that accuses you.
This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,
and this is their vindication from me, declares the Lord.”
When I attended his Wake and Funeral, I have to admit, it was pretty difficult, facing all of the pain and sorrows all at once. Some of these people I had not seen for 20 years, let alone this uncle; and a few others I have seen in later years. I decided to go because of what I remembered my spiritual mentor telling me…and that is that it is my duty to forgive, and close this chapter in my life by attending. That my uncle’s story is already written in God’s Book of Life. I realized that though my uncle passed on, and that his life before God, the Father is already set in stone, my life is not yet. So I still have the responsibility in front of God, to continue to refine my soul, through spiritually feeding it with the Holy Scripture; so that it will be fit to enter God’s Eternal Kingdom. I still have the responsibility to continue to witness God’s Holy Gospel, through which He showed us through the Life and Death of His, Jesus Christ (Yeshuay, Yeshu Christu, Yeshua). God showed me that he counts every single tear that is shed by His Faithful Servants, and does not allow any one of them unaccounted for. He showed me that despite whomever may not see value in me, that He saw value and purpose for me. Ever since this incidence, I have never felt alone. It was my responsibility to forgive my uncle, and that is what I did.
I am still trying to pray about the meaning or correlation (if there is anything) of the death of another uncle (1-2 months later), who was the one responsible for bailing out the people involved (who were caught at the state border).
Testimony Continued in Part 4…..